Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite days of the year, and it’s not just because I’m now in a relationship. I always considered Valentine’s Day a “Treat Yo Self” Day before it was shown on Parks and Rec. It really started in my 20’s because I worked in an office with a lot of young women where you’d see massive bouquets being delivered every 5 minutes. At one point there were even singing telegrams. There’s nothing quite like feeling you’re the only single girl in the world, but I had a plan. I’d fight traffic home that night, buy myself some flowers, and order the nicest filet Outback had to offer. Treat yo self.
I kind of forgot about how great it was till I started watching Parks and Rec. I loved that Tom and Donna always set aside one day where they would pamper themselves extravagantly. “Massages, mimosas, and fine leather goods? Yes, yes, and yes!” I just discovered this is now an official day on Oct 13th. Wow, there’s really an official day for everything. Anyway I chose today to be my “Treat Yo Self” day, and here’s why I think you should too.
As someone who struggles with chronic pain, it’s easy to feel like a lot of the focus is on yourself already. You’re managing a crazy amount of doctor’s appointments, meetings, trying to keep up with work, FMLA or disability paperwork, insurance claims, therapy, and a number of other things. When so much focus is on managing your health, it’s easy to forget to set aside time to actually do something fun for yourself. It’s also difficult to justify the costs when you’re struggling to pay a massive amount of medical bills.
I’ve put together a list of fun ways to show yourself a little bit of love, without costing an arm and a leg. Massages can be on the expensive side, but have you tried reflexology? In Dallas, there’s a place called Ya Ya Foot Spa, where you can get 40 minutes of reflexology on major points for $26. For $36 you can get an hour of pure bliss where your body will be totally relaxed and may even drift off to sleep. Treat yoooooooooo selffffffffffffff.
- I have really long hair, and drying it can often leave me hot and even a bit dizzy. When my vestibular migraines first began, it was a huge effort to even take a shower. You can book an appointment at your local DryBar to get a blow out and leave the washing and drying up to someone else for the day. The cost is usually $40-45.
- Meal delivery services have gone local, especially if you’re in a large city. In Dallas we have a few like Fresh N Lean, and many others that have paleo plans or allow you to customize to accommodate your diet. Because that can be expensive, you could always try a delivery service like Uber Eats or Amazon Food Delivery from your favorite restaurant. If you’re following HYH, just specify your needs Sally Albright style.
- Set aside an hour for some meditation and a hot bath with magnesium salts. I like to mix up my scented salts from Zum with magnesium chloride salts. Don’t forget to put on your favorite music. The Calm or Headspace app can help with guided meditation.
- Buy yourself some fun socks that will help you smile, even when you’re feeling pretty low.
- Sign up for a workout class you’ve been wanting to try. Many studios will give you a free first class or a discounted first week. You can also sign up for 1 month of Class Pass to test things out. You could also motivate yourself by purchasing a new outfit from your favorite athletic store to take things to a whole new “treat yo self” level.
- If you’re ready to test out wine, try a wine from a biodynamic (100% organic) vineyard. These wineries, like Dragonette Cellars, avoid using sulfur to clean their equipment and don’t use preservatives like DMDC (di-methyl di-carbonate). Many winemakers believe this preservative is the cause of headaches more than sulfites. You can find a few biodynamic brands in your local Whole Foods.
- Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. Trader Joe’s has the best deals on flowers. Hydrangeas for $5.99? Sign me up!
I hope you will have a wonderful Valentine’s day, and remember that you don’t need a holiday to set aside time to be good to yourself. You deserve it.